I have been grieving these past few days. It’s not intense but ever present, making every morning feel like a careful step. I have been taking things slowly. I sleep when my body asks. I journal when I feel overwhelmed. I make simple meals and spend less time on social media or reading the news.
Today, on Valentine’s Day, the pain rises closer to the surface. I read that the brain areas that register physical pain also register emotional hurt. The idea almost makes a paracetamol seem logical, as if the heart carried a headache, though I know medicine will not soothe it.
I am sharing two poems I wrote years ago because they hold what I feel more clearly than I can right now. They come from two sides of the same moment. The first poem speaks from her view, aware that time never pauses. The second answers from his side of the same room, the same bed, the same slowly emptying hourglass.
Her Perspective
Slipping Away
We are dying a little more each day,
you, me, the neighbor with the cracked glasses,
the woman at the train station
who waits for no one.
The boy who lost his dog
last November.
But,
we live like we have
all the time in the world,
we wake to alarms that steal
the dreams from our skin,
eat breakfast,
leave dishes in the sink,
argue about the bills,
make love as if our bodies
aren’t maps of vanishing places.
Denial is an art,
we are its faithful painters.
We fill our days with notifications,
deadlines, grocery lists,
traffic jams, dinner plans,
laughter.
We say, “see you later”
knowing full well that one day,
one of us won’t.
I watch you
in the soft glow of evening,
the furrow in your brows,
the absent scratch of your fingers.
I watch the flicker of your eyes,
as you skim through a book.
You mutter beneath your breath,
making sense of your read.
Later,
in the hush between midnight and morning,
our fingers trace unseen
constellations across warm skin.
For a moment, time disappears,
leaving only us.
I want to tell you,
the sand in the hourglass
doesn’t pause because
we are too afraid to look.
Instead,
I kiss you,
as if that will keep you here,
just a little longer.
His Perspective
Before the Hourglass Breaks (for Liv)
We are fading,
you and I,
like paper that yellows under glass.
Each day lifts a little color.
I count the changes, afraid
I’ll miss the exact moment
we become part of the past.
And still,
I meet you in the mornings
as though the clock has stalled.
I pour coffee,
listen to the three slow turns
of spoon on porcelain.
We talk about nothing urgent,
leave the bed unmade,
let the light spill over our carelessness.
I keep my hands busy
because if I stop,
I’ll touch your face
and give away too much.
Instead, I watch the shadows
move over your shoulders,
trace the curve of your wrist
as you turn a page,
note the small frown
that settles when a sentence traps you.
Later,
when the world finally goes quiet,
your fingertips search for me in the dark.
I memorize their path,
the pauses,
the breath you release
before you closing the space between us.
I want to tell you,
I feel the sand running too.
That I’ve been learning
how to love without holding,
how to stay without staying.
Instead,
I let my lips find yours,
hoping the taste carries forward
into whatever comes after,
and that you’ll feel me there,
just a little longer.
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